I understand every human being is unique and they have the right to be different. I understand relationship is not built on agreement, but it is built by understanding.

 

In a world where nothing repeats, you are doomed if you do not have the attitude to look at differences positively. In a world that is filled with many people, many choices, many temperaments, and many ways, you can never find harmony in relationships unless you learn to look at differences positively.

 

Man is not sure about himself. So he needs mass endorsement. As a result he assumes – "if the world is different from me, then either they are wrong or I am wrong." So man desperately seeks conformity, obedience and duplication. 'Become like me; be like me' seems to be the crying. If everyone is like everyone, then what is life? Then where is originality? What about uniqueness? Every human being is unique and they have the right to be different.

 

The husband wants his wife to be like his mother, and the wife wants the husband to behave like her brother. In fact, the whole family, from husband to mother-in-law to sister-in-law, works as a team to convert the girl into what they call 'our family type'. Dad wants to decide the dress code for the daughter, and the mother decides what career the son should pursue. A whole society with incomplete life cycles is after the life of a kid, to mould him into what want him to be. In trying to mould others the way we want, we experience war zones in relationships instead of harmony.

 

The other person is not ugly or beautiful – she is different. His taste is not bad or good – it is different. It is not that you cannot think like others – you are different. In life nothing repeats, and what can be repeated has no life in it. Instead of wasting time in changing the other, start cherishing the other – with his differences, in spite of the differences.

 

That is her way. This is my way. What is your way? Remember there is no His way. The freedom of relationship is in this understanding. Do you agree? If not, at least do you understand?